How Setting Boundaries Can Set You Free
Boundary: noun, plural boundaries. 1. something that indicates bounds or limits; a limiting or bounding line. Let me first say that I kind of suck at setting boundaries, but have...
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What’s Getting in the Way of Your Success? (You might not like the answer.)
The answer? Most likely, it’s your very own self. For most of us, we are the ones who get in our own way. We like to point to a lot...
What’s Happiness Got To Do With It?
I see it as our duty to humanity to pursue happiness so that our thinking can evolve. The thinking that created the problems we face now is not the thinking that...
Why It's Totally Awesome You Did Not Win the Lottery
Winning the lottery can’t make you happy. Money can’t buy you love or long-term happiness. So why did so many of us go out and buy lottery tickets?
Why We Can't Let Anxiety Go
I’ve been thinking about anxiety because so many people struggle with it, and I noticed something interesting: Even though we have tools and strategies to manage it, we don’t always...
New Year’s Resolutions? Bah! Humbug!
You know setting New Year’s resolutions doesn’t work, right? According to Statistic Brain, only 8 percent of “resolvers” are still at it six months later. Clearly, there’s something that doesn’t...
Two Lessons I Learned From a Spoonful of Sugar
Today, I conducted an experiment. I didn’t put sugar in my coffee. I realize this may seem trivial, especially to non-coffee drinkers or people who swore off sugar a long...
The Pernicious Effects of Perfectionism
I am a recovering perfectionist. Those who know me might say the recovery is fully complete, as they see no visible signs of perfectionism. My house is not perfectly clean....
Why Gratitude Is Good For You
Gratitude has been a big theme in my professional and personal life in the last week. I managed to send some thank you notes (finally) last week and was happy...
How to Let Go and Get Unstuck, Part 1
Last Saturday I floated down the Clackamas River. I was well equipped with an inflatable kayak, paddle, life jacket, etc. Other members of my group were floating down the river...
Are You Sabotaging Your Job Search? How Perfectionism May Be Getting in Your Way
Are you a perfectionist? If so, it could be hampering your job search and your ability to make career decisions.
Who Is the Boss of You?
When I ask myself this question, I’m a little embarrassed to admit that MY DOG (see above) is often the boss of me. Even though I set an alarm, he...
What’s the Secret to a Better Life? Stop Believing the Crap You Tell Yourself
The same is true about life. If you want a different life, then you have to do something different. I suggest (and Gandhi would have agreed with me) you start...
It IS the Thought That Counts
When it comes to holiday shopping, careers, relationships, life happiness, or basically anything, for that matter, it IS the thought that counts. In fact, it may be the ONLY thing...
Does Your Definition of Success Make You Happy?
How we define success will determine to what degree we are happy, so it’s important to know what really makes you happy. And more than anything, researchers are finding out...
Facing the People-Pleasing Dilemma
When I do things because I want to look like a hero (and who doesn’t like a hero?!), I often turn into a very unlikeable person—one who is bitter, resentful...
What If You Didn’t Need to Retire?
How much of your life is being dictated by your future retirement? First of all, are you sure retirement will make you happy? Just like in life, some people are...
How to Conduct a Job Search that Doesn't Completely Suck
Anytime I’ve had to look for a job, it seems fraught with gut wrenching anxiety from the first time I edit my resume to the time I finally hear the...
Is It Time You Took Your Own Medicine? (I did and it worked!)
This past Saturday I led a free workshop in which I taught participants to use one of my favorite "make the crazy in the brain stop" tools. The workshop went...
How Karaoke Taught Me a Lesson About Decision-Making, Leadership & Perfectionism
The more I pay attention to what makes good leaders, I see how trapped many of us are by our perfectionism without even realizing it. In fact, what they found is...