Plus, we may confuse self-compassion with self-indulgence, or fear that if we “let up” on ourselves, we will stop performing. Actually, the opposite is true.
When I first started hearing people talk about “grit” in relation to what makes people successful, it raised my hackles. I was immediately resistant to even hearing about the concept...
Aside from indicating that our education system isn’t designed for today’s world, these statistics also show that most of us don’t actually know what we want to do when we...
You know the question, “If you won the lottery, what would you do?” Yeah, that one.
I keep playing this guessing game with the universe. If I do X, will I get Y? I keep looking for answers outside of me. What do I have to...
Unfortunately, hustling is what people like Gary Vaynerchuk say is necessary for success. But what if it’s not?
Being in limbo is agonizing. I hate the indecision. Stuck in fear—afraid to go back and afraid to take the leap. But today I decided, if I'm going to be...
The future is uncertain. We can spend our energy imagining all the things that could go wrong, which is how we are hardwired, or, you can imagine the future you’d...
My adorkable black lab died unexpectedly and from unknown causes on Saturday. As you can imagine, I am grieving. As a way to honor him, my cousin suggested I think...
Many paintings later, he realized that it’s just part of his process. He almost always faces a challenge, experiences doubt or doesn't like what he's producing and then boom! Somehow,...
What I believe now is that spirituality and creativity are intertwined, and you don’t have to believe anything in order to access them. They just are. Practicing creativity leads me...
The most interesting thing is that I got to have a RIM (regenerating images in memory) session where I got to be the client and my fellow practitioner facilitated the...
It’s a miracle to be free from obsessive-compulsive thinking, but getting there? It is ugly and messy. And as far as I can tell, it’s human nature to wait until...
For me, self-doubt slows down everything I do, every important (and many unimportant) decisions I make create a volcano of questions that serve as a fantastic stalling technique. It’s my...
I encourage you to listen this podcast, and then if you feel moved to do so, buy Sonya Renee Taylor’s book: The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical...
But what often happens to me is that I set myself up to “fail” by trying to take on too many things at once or something too big, which overwhelms...
While it was the worst possible outcome, it had taught me so much more about what works and doesn’t work. By seeing the project as it actually was—not trying to...
Every “should” (or “should not”) is a judgment against yourself. Every. Single. One.
People are often surprised when they come to me for career coaching and want to start looking for a new job right away and I say, “Let’s wait on that.”
In recent weeks, many of my conversations have raised the subjects of self-care, work-life balance and setting boundaries. Specifically, what they are driving at is: How can I create time...